My Ramblings
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It's hard to write about the man I was married to for 48 years, but here goes.
He died on the 2nd leaving me, his wife (Judy), to continue in this world alone with the animals he loved.
Warning: As I think of things to tell people, this page might change.
I will always remember how strong, brave and honest he was. He never lied to me. He always told me he was fine and that things would work out. He cared for me until he could no longer do so and was taken to the hsospital.
I am disabled, unable to walk very far (still learning since I was in a wheelchair for 6 years). Because I have little to no balance yet, I need a walker to prevent me from falling. I have spinal stenosis and sometimes spend days on the chair with my feet on the desk to alleviate the pain, with strong pain pills to help.
Joe cared for me until the day they took him to the hospital. Caring and worrying about me - it sapped his strength and took his life.
I do not know if I can keep the house or not. The mortgage company might or might not agree to allow me to stay here at a reduced repayment plan. My income will now be halved and if there is any money from the sale of Joe's stuff, or the generosity of those who knew him - that would first and foremost pay for his cremation and then further determine how long I can hold out in my home before a family member insists I go to an old age home (assisted living facility) that I am most adamant I do not want. I hate the idea of cemented walkways and limited time to spend among the trees and in the veld, and without any pets.
I am hoping for other answers.
Everyone has ideas and suggesstions. Not all of them will I even consider, but I ask for them anyway. That way I can make the best of this sad occurrence.
Please help
Money-wise I am in trouble.
I am now alone and need help to pay his funeral expenses and to live.
The amount for cremation is $2,100.00
Now I must ask everyone who ever knew him to please contribute to this so that I can bury him.
A "Go-Fund-Me" account I cannot do because I have assets
-- a house I am not prepared to just throw at the wolves
-- guns that I am in the process of selling
-- tools that I have not yet catalogued nor seen nor decided whether or not to sell or keep
-- and stuff that needs sorting, selling, or thowing away.
The proceeds will be slim because he told me that he had already sold the best guns and that his tools are old and not worth anything. It is true that I have stuff. Everyone has stuff and I have a lot of digging and sorting to do.
Joe must be buried within 2 weeks, so the final date for his cremation payment is 16th January, 2025. Any monies received after that will pay for flowers and a trip to the sea where I will spread his ashes in the waves between South Africa and America.
Please be generous. I will stay in this house as long as I can and go through Joe's stuff and sell or keep it.
To donate, open PayPal, then click to send to my email address (add judy1009 to ??? below) and please leave a very short message.
Longer messages are welcome directly through my email: ??? @ wind stream.net (remove spaces).
Thanks for reading,
Judy (Judeline) Meintjes
This is the PayPal link. Just click, enter amount and send.
Thank You !
Here are pictures of Joe through his various life stages. Please enjoy them. Pray for him and me and God Bless each and every one of you.
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